Facebook Facade:
In my last post I talked about low self confidence and turning on your inner fire.
The obvious thing to do is to set firm boundaries and cut out the thoughts, behaviours and people that don’t serve you well for your inner peace and ability to be the true you.
Another – and we all know it – is how we react to social media and the Facebook facade. We should all know that it’s not a whole picture of the truth. Take out those people that post passive aggressive or cryptic messages that mean that you need to DM them for the story, or to encourage comments of support.
I’m talking about the posts where someone looks to be having the dream holiday that you long for, or the perfect couple, or perfect family posts.
Take a step back
If we don’t check ourselves then we can convince ourselves that we’re not working hard enough or are getting left behind while others have the fairy tale lifestyle.
But, you’re not going to see posts of down days, or what goes on behind closed doors.
The perfect couple and family most likely is not that perfect.
The person living it up all the time might only post when they go out, so it just looks that way.
The person that’s annoying you with posts about their business might look like they’re successful, but they’re using all the energy that they’ve got to make these posts to achieve the life that they want or to make extra cash.
The posing snaps might be a message to someone that they’re doing great without them. They could be to subtly show the health kick has paid off. The posts may even be milkshake to bring the boys to the yard for some much needed and deserved attention.
In fact – how many of these posts have you been you? For me – all of them. How many conversations have you had where people have said, “oh it looks like you’re doing great on Facebook”, and then you’ve thought the same about them? Then it turns out that neither of you have been doing that great.
How the Facebook facade makes you feel
This isn’t a chat about reaching out because you never know when someone is suffering. You should – because you don’t. We can’t analyse and contact everyone in our hundreds of online friends. This is about how it makes you feel.
You have to shine in your own light and be supportive in theirs. Don’t compare yourself and your situation because you’re comparison is not realistic and is based on a half truth. Give them what they need – encouragement. Share the business posts to your audience. Just the gesture can mean so much.
You concentrate on building yourself and others up so that you can be your true self no matter what that is. A go-getter or a content house cat.
This is your journey!