The most commonly asked question by people who are coping with profound grief is Are my loved ones ok on the other side? The quick answer is usually yes, but I like to offer a more in depth answer. We need to look at where they are on their journey.
Is my loved one safe in the afterlife? Where are they?
Transition periods for loved ones vary; some may linger in spirit longer before reconnecting, while others swiftly return or manifest faintly. Through intuition, I can sense when communication will commence.
Occasionally, a loved one might not immediately appear, so as to encouraging grievers to live truly in the present. Absence allows for healing, avoiding reliance on constant dreams or visions. Sometimes lack of contact allows for necessary healing rather than living from one opportunity for communication to the next.
Most have a transition period to go through. They may have to go straight to study lessons to develop their spirit further. Some may be entering into spirit guide status or beyond. There are many reasons why they might not be presenting themselves to you.
Messages from loved ones in spirit: Say what you see
Have you ever heard of soul contracts? Every individual entering our lives fulfils a predestined contract for mutual growth and learning. I hold the belief that all spirits are inherently good and unified at source, though they will present themselves as they were on earth to facilitate recognition from you. Which also aids your ability to trust me. My style projects the real spirit, so I do not interpret the messages in a way that is fluffy. To do so would remove all resemblance of the spirit’s character and also leaves room for a wrong interpretation.
Spirits often choose to present themselves as they were when they were younger of a form. One that relates more to you. In a development class I was told to be careful on a practice session as the client’s loved one had Alzheimers before they passed so it may be that they are confused or some hard to understand. They weren’t and I haven’t experienced this yet. Everyone coming through has been clear in their conversation;
I have also had someone’s mum come to me because I’m one of the few messengers that will give it straight. She wanted me to say that she wasn’t impressed at her daughter’s cooking or more precisely that she wasn’t representing her culture in her culinary creations. My client had been expecting it and was surprisingly happy to hear the telling off.
Where are the signs?
It’s pretty much a well known thing that there are signs everywhere. In popular culture there are lots of films and songs based around signs. We take things we see or that happen to us as a sign.
You can ask for a sign from anyone or for anything. Not long ago I as driving down the motorway and asked for a sign about a decision. I asked for a blue bird for route A and red for route B, I needed the answer to be strong. I was starting to think that my request had been ridiculous, when a couple of miles down the road a white lorry passed my with blue birds printed on the trailer.
What about making sure you're OK?
You want to find out how to know if loved ones are at peace, but they also want the same for you.
Loved ones will watch over you to make sure you are OK, especially if you ask them to. They often stand next to you rolling their eyes, or giving advice and hugs when you’re offloading to them. Don’t worry! They have absolutely no interest in invading your privacy, so you’re safe on the loo or in the shower or getting even getting jiggy. Why would they want to see that? Similarly, they’ll go to the cemetery if you’re going there, but they tend not to hang out there. Why would anyone who’s made it to a higher dimension want to hang around a cemetery?
If grief is strong, for example with a grieving parent or partner, I have been told by spirit that they aren’t seeing signs and feel alone because the grief is so consuming that they are closed down. The spirit cannot get near or they know that signs would be missed, so they don’t send them yet.
Cutting through the grief
I have recently had a case where a reading discovered that the mother was on a mission to find out how her son died in uncertain circumstances. The emotions of grief, guilt, protection and need for justice must be all consuming, but the message was clear and to let it go. The spirit was desperate to be heard so that he could save his mum from a direction of self destruct. The love was so strong and he wanted to be able to cut through the grief to get to her.
There are parents who are envious of partners because they have had signs and visions. In reality the truth has been that the spirit could not communicate to them yet because that may result in a desperate need to be in contact. To be living in a state of sleep for dreams, mediums for contact or attributing anything to a sign. The outside world becomes insignificant and the inside world more insular.
Guidance and healing
That scenario is not the case for all. The grieving process is extremely personal and individual. Each family, relationship, spirit and karmic direction is very different. Experiences and emotions will be very different. With psychic ability for guidance and a spirit connection it’s our job as mediums to help you on your way to heal and feel comfort and peace with messages and advice.
This all brings more questions than are my loved ones ok on the other side, and there are many spirits that are earthbound either through choice or confusion, so they have not reached that place yet. The subject of what it’s like beyond the veil is gigantic and this page would turn into a text book. Generally speaking, yes they are OK, in fact they’re more than OK on a level that human brains can’t comprehend. If you are concerned about your loved one on the other side, then get in touch.
I hope that you enjoyed and found comfort in this article “Are my loved ones ok on the other side?”.
